More of myself and less of myself
Muse #446 - engaging at our own terms to unconscious adaptation
We had an interesting dialogue on topics related to complexity practices in today’s Meetup group. One of the key questions that were handled was around “How do you balance the need to express your unique individuality and the need to belong to groups?”
One is truly yourself and able to express one’s individuality when you are alone and one is on their own. Like when singing the shower as an example. In groups, you exhibit different identities depending on how closely one is integrated into the group. Comfort matters. There is more give and take and acceptance in such circumstances.
In groups where we have a need to belong, we adapt to the extent we want to be accepted. Forcibly or unforcibly, we try to fit into unsaid norms. If one does not fit in and tries to be themselves either they are considered an outlier or treated as an idiot or could end up being excommunicated from that circle.
I surmise this as a quote below.
Where someone will put up with me in a group I will be more of myself and when I am expected to fit to group norms and would not fit in otherwise I will be less of myself.